How to set boundaries and why it’s important

It is so important to be able to set boundaries between yourself and others in order for you to express your own self-respect and self-love.

This can often be one of the most challenging things to do in your healing journey.

Mainly because you are putting in place what has either been violated by yourself or others, or perhaps never been put in place in the first instance (most likely a combination of the two).

So why do you need to set boundaries?

Boundaries are a great way to communicate what you are no longer available for.

One of the hardest concepts for loved ones to understand when you begin your healing journey is that you are not your past. That's right. You are not everything they remember of you.

For two reasons, a) they are remembering you through their stories/filter (for example, if the story they have running is of being abandoned, they will recall all the times you let them down and emotionally or physically abandoned their needs) and b) believe it or not, our behaviour does not always define who we really are because we will be acting out from our own set of stories if we are unaware of our needs at that given time.

Therefore, as we heal and grow we identify our pains and hurts of the past and choose to heal and release them; returning back to who we are at the core of us, not who we have become from a series of events.

Here is a great infographic of the different boundaries and how to create them. It was taken from a great book called The Inner Work by Matt and Ash - @theyogacouple.

If when you read these they trigger you it is possibly because there is further work for you to do regarding boundaries. You can always book in for a coaching call or Theta Healing session to work through these with me. Just hit reply.

Love & Light,

Danielle xx